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Am I Codependent?

Am I a Co-dependant?

Diagnosis of addiction requires a thorough examination by a professional. However, below is a short self-assessment questionnaire as a first step to finding out whether you have the disease of addiction.

Here are some of the main features and characteristics of codependency presented as questions for you to answer:

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Please test yourself…

Am I codependent?
1. Do you have an unhealthy dependency on your relationships?
2. Do you say ‘Yes’ when you should be saying ‘No’, at cost to yourself?
3. Does your family have a history of addiction or psychiatric illness?
4. Have you been in previous harmful relationships, putting up with behaviour that you shouldn’t?
5. Have there been signs of addiction in your past or present relationships?
6. Have you put up with physical, sexual, or verbal violence or bullying?
7. Do you work long hours for no extra reward, or not take your allowed holiday?
8. Have you covered up for others’ drunken or intoxicated incidents, lying on their behalf?
9. Have you bailed someone out financially, lending them money, paying gambling or drug debts, or turning a blind eye when they’ve stolen from you?
10. Do you feel guilty for standing up for yourself?
11. Do you feel anxious if things are not perfect?
12. Do you try to control others’ behaviour?
13. Do you find it hard to trust others?
14. Do you take excessive precautions against real or imaginary disasters or accidents?
15. Do you need constant reassurance from your partner/spouse/child?
16. Are you prone to jealousy?
17. Do you feel that if you don’t do what your love wants, they might leave you?
18. Do you often lie awake watching your loved one sleep?
19. Do you try to anticipate what mood your loved one is going to be in when you next meet?
20. Do you purposely start arguments to get your loved one’s attention?
If you’ve answered ‘Yes’ to five or more of these questions, you may fit into this category. Don’t put off seeking help. On the surface, it might not appear as harmful as a chemical or alcohol addiction problem, but being dependent on someone who constantly lets you down is bad for self-esteem and can lead to depression. Ask yourself if you’re happy with how you respond to your family, friends, and colleagues.

If you are living with an addicted person and you are codependent, not only are you suffering but by continuing to tolerate their lies and excuses, you might not be helping the person that is ill. Children copy our behaviour, so if you’re a parent it’s important to seek help, look after yourself and put appropriate boundaries in place.

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I was at Ibiza calm from the 4th of July to the 29th of July 2020, I am 23 years of age and was in a horrific place in my life From drink and cocaine. My girlfriend is pregnant and outright had enough of my selfish behaviour. I was really ready to start my recovery, I settled in fantastic they have amazing staff so helpful and caring, the food is unbelievable thanks to Danny the main man in the kitchen, the grounds are beautiful, the bedrooms are very nice I overall found my stay amazing. 10/10 couldn’t fault it many thanks Francis.

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My husband was in another rehab clinic in the UK 6 months ago, which I wasn’t totally convinced by not only experiences of others but the surroundings/ Set up and approach to it .. he is only 2 weeks into his journey at IBIZA calm and it’s the first time in a long time I can finally hear happiness in his voice, and motivation on his healing / sobriety journey , commitment to his inner and outer health.. I know this is just the beginnings But both billy and Luca have been extremely helpful and helpful to myself ! If your looking for yourself or a loved one, 100 look no further this is the type of place someone who is suffering needs- the surroundings, the programme, the environment , and amazing team!

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For free information and advice on issues related to mental health and addiction check out the following websites:

Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). A worldwide 12-step fellowship for individuals who have a problem with alcohol. Anyone with a desire to stop drinking is welcome. https://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk

Narcotics Anonymous (NA). Is a global non-profit fellowship, a community of people who support each other to achieve and maintain a drug free life. https://ukna.org

Al-Anon. A mutual peer-support programme for people whose lives have been affected by someone else’s drinking.  https://al-anonuk.org.uk

Mind. A registered charity in England, which offers information, advice, local services and support, for those individuals and family members struggling with a mental health condition.  https://www.mind.org.uk

Mental Health Foundation. A UK charity that provides individuals with advice and resources related to mental health. https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk

BEAT. The UKs eating disorder charity that provides information and support for those affected by an eating disorder. https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk